A person who is controlling carries a great deal of stress, not because he/she is concerned with his/her own choices & behavior, but also in addition they think of others to behave & perform in certain way. Occasionally, we can influence other person, but we certainly can't force them to be certain way
Controlling people lack the willingness to allow other people to be fully themselves, give them space to be who they are, and to respect-really respect the fact that human beings are different.
The advantage of being less controlling is that people will feel easier and respected around your presence. Plus their will be less stress on you to feel the need to have people be the way to fit the image that you have of them..
Remember, Don't take yourself so damn serious (this is a link to previous post)