Event + Response = Outcome
In its simplest form the formula above suggests that your events, the circumstances that may not be in your control happens and your response to them which is in your control determines the outcome of a situation. The only thing that really is in our control is our respond. This also suggest that when there's a communication breakdown, we are part to it 50% to be least because we failed to convey our message in its exact form. Once we accept the responsibility (from the word respond with an ability) we tap in to our creative sense to come up with the desired outcomes.
If ever you decided that the outcomes are not aligned with you desires, change the responses to the events.
"It is not what happens to you,
But how you react to what happens
Determines the depth of your character."