Don't take yourself so damn serious

LOL @ my header, yeah that's something I have started to practice.

In The Fire from Within, Carlos Castaneda hear these words from his teacher "self-importance is man's greatest enemy, it requires that one spend most of one's life offended by something or someone." It is important for us to have strong self-concept, feeling good about our self, but the problems arises when we start misidentifying on basis of what we have or don't have, achievements, accomplishments etc. Cutting down on some of these ego driven needs can make our life a lot easier..

• being offended ~ that what offends you weakens you
• need to win ~ you are not your winnings or victories. Loss is not a loss if you learn from it
• need to be right ~ do you want to be right or happy?
• need to be superior ~ nobility isn't being better than others, its being better than what you use to be
• need to have more ~ no matter how much you get, you will always want more
• Identifying on bases of achievements ~ if these are what defines you, then what happens if you don't have em
• Reputation ~ It lies in the eyes of others (what you think of me is non of my business)

hope you are having great time, its gorgeous out here about 80 degrees sunny. I am going to head out & enjoy ;-)

4 Liberating Assumptions

In times of stress, crises, being overwhelmed we start sabotaging, doubting ourselves. We loose our track, our vision, our goal that we are marching towards. These few things might rescue us when we start doubting our abilities & loose our focus.

• It is not my responsibility to make things better, however it is my responsibility to do my best.
• They have limitations too.
• This conflict or argument is not about who i am, it does not define me.
• Letting go doesn't mean I don't care.

so what might be somethings you can think of you do to overcome stressing situations, people, feeling of overwhelmed?

You have a great weekend! ...signing off ~/

Rewarding inner child

Inside each human resides three separate egos that makes up ones unique personality. We all have parent-like ego, adult-like ego, and child-like ego which acts much same way as our parents, adults and children do in real life.

Adult Ego in us is what keeps us going like getting to work on time, providing food & shelter to family, being responsible etc.

Parent Ego in us is what take cares of us, like eating healthy food, taking rest, tieing your own shoes, brush teeth etc. It is the desire in us that takes care of us.

Child Ego in us acts the same was as child does, which begs for attention, needs love, hugs and acts out when its needs are not met. It carves for rewards after success.

Our child-like ego is the most sensitive ones, if a parent tells a child who's asking for ice cream or candy that mom is doing her report due in 20 minutes after that we will go and get some ice cream. A child will usually calm down and wait till 20 minutes.

Big part of our life is rewarding our self after our accomplish. When you tell the child inside you to wait till the job is finished. It will wait till that end, but when we tend to neglect it only then it starts to sabotage our efforts by doing things like getting us sick, having accidents, making mistakes, forcing us to take break, vacation, rest, thus further distancing us from our desired result. So this need is very important to satisfy..

wishing you better day than good, good luck!