Quality vs Safe Problems

Quality problems in our lives involves risky forward thinking decision that often takes us to another stage of our life like:

• career shit ~ committing to relationship ~ starting a family ~ or perhaps leaving a relationship

Quality problems requires us to make a decision to do something that will make difference.

Safe problems on other hand are lingering issues that lies within our control like:

• depression ~ procrastinating ~ addiction ~ blaming others ~ avoiding decisions ~ or withdrawing from others

Safe problems are safe because they seem to protect us from fear that if we try and fail, we will not be loved or appreciated in life. Of course in a long run safe problems are the ones that causes more problems to our bodies, relationships & spiritual well being.

good to be back to blogging (: hope you are having great on!

Blog of the day, Thanks

WOW! I am amazed & stunned, honestly I don't think I have done much. Persoanlly I believe I can demonstrate a lot more than what I show.

SPECIAL THANKS to those who read it & those who nominated me, without your constant support & encouragement through regular feedback & comments this would not have be possible!!

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We all need

We all are driven by six needs

• Certainty (security)
• Variety (surprises, need for some uncertainty)
• Significance (importance, am i worthy of love)
• Connection/Love (we need connections with others & strive for some sort of love)
• Growth (if one is not growing, they die, growing emotionally, intellectually, spirituality)
• Contribution (sense of giving something to someone, making difference is someones life)

Most people have 2 important needs out of six, they are the driving force of their life & must be met for them to feel good. If someone rates Certainty over Love & Connection, then no amount of love will make them happy unless they are completely Certain.

The goal should be to find out what are others most important needs & do everything to make sure that they are meeting this in their eyes. You do this and your relationship with any other human beings will prosper!

have a better day than good, signing off.... yazi~/

Happy Valentines Day

growing love on valentines day ...

• pick a good heart
• plant a bucket of trust
• water with care & good thoughts
• add some romance occasionally
• remove the misunderstanding leaves

i am still learning this four letter word, how are some of way you grow everlasting love?

happy valentines day to all my friends & visitors, remember you can always offer love to someone...

3 types of people

There's a saying that there are 3 types of people. They are:

• There are those who make things happen.
• There are those who watch things happen.
• Then there are those who says what happened.

Vast majority of people are walking around wondering what happened. As we have moved from industrial age to information age. Knowledge is the raw material of production & value in this age. In society the difference use to be that those who had more and those who had less. Today however, the difference is those who know more & those who know less.

what are you doing to improve on this front, are you committed life long learner perhaps student for life?

wishing you better day than good, signing off/

Words of Authority

A lot of us have habit of throwing out words on others without giving it much thought and impact they might have on others.

Successful people on other hand are masters of their words, they know that if they don't take authority over their words, their words will take authority over them. They consistently practice the words that build self esteem, self confidence, relationships & dreams. Following words of affirmation, encouragement, appreciation, love, acceptance, possibility & wisdom will regularly visualize in their conversations.

I think when you speak with the words of authority, you not only have power over yourself but also over others. To speak with authority is to speak the words that are true, that uplift and expands others worth.

As you practice these words, you will discover they are basis for all relationships. How I speak to you & about you determines the quality of our relationship!

Ready, fire, aim

A lot of us have heard the phrase "ready, aim, fire" but the drawback on this is some people spend their entire time planning, preparing but never firing. They wait for that perfect opportunity, permission, when they get the green like.The problem with such approach is that they are out of ones control and he or she might never get that opportunity, permission, or green light. Some of the successful businesses, people like authors do this why can't an average person?

• Microsoft throws out new windows every now and then, and then release periodically updates, patches to adjust & improve.


• Author writing a book throws out story or two to get feedback to improve & see what people are thinking about the content.

If we take action and don't succeed the first time, we have great experience to use to adjust our strategy and achieve our goal.

hope you are having a great weekend, enjoy Super Sunday..